Below are 9 manners for a wedding guest.
Do not attend a wedding if you have not been invited. Also, don’t add an extra person to the wedding if you were the only one invited. If the invitation states you and your family, bring them along.
2. Dressing (What to wear to a Kenyan wedding?)
Probably, this one you already know, do not wear white or show up on jeans. Avoiding white to a wedding was a rule invented to show that the married couple was pure at the ceremony hence white bridal dresses. Jeans are not that bad but they send a message of not caring about the importance of the event and also, it can be interpreted as disrespectful by the couples So what should I wear to a wedding as a guest in Kenya? For men, a tuxedo is always the best choice but African wear is also worn frequently. For women, formal dresses, maxi dresses, skater dresses or African traditional wear are common. For example a kitenge. On the other hand, If your style is trousers, wear an official one. Unless the bride tells you otherwise, avoid short dresses. Below are the outfits you should wear to a wedding:
a) Older women like mothers
Wear a respectful well-fitting traditional or official wear. The couples will be looking to you as their advisors, so wear a conservative outfit.
b) Ladies (age 16-40)
Wear an African print or a respectful outfit. Avoid trousers if necessary and the length of the outfit should be longer.
A tuxedo is always the recommended outfit. African wear is also a good choice. Although we have seen some guys showing up with casual wear like jeans and t-shirts, it is not recommended since it can be seen as a don’t care about the event.
d) Children of all sexes
Children can get away with dressing. They can wear their normal outfits or parents can dress them in their best outfit. However, we would recommend high-end designer outfits like tuxedos or African wear if your family is close to the couples or if you are a VIP to the event. This is important because wedding memories last forever and there will be photographs that the couple will store and treasure all their lives.
e) What to avoid
- Avoid white outfits
- Wardrobe malfunctions
- Jeans if necessary
- Mini skirts or mini dresses.
In conclusion, regarding what to wear to a Kenyan wedding as a guest, the Majority of people attend weddings to socialize and interact and many try to look their best. It is fine to look fabulous but keep in mind the day belongs to the couples. Also, don’t wear ugly clothes because you have to be conservative, wear your best outfits but be conservative. You can rent ladies’ wedding outfits here.
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Below is a youtube clip from a wedding in 2017, observe how the majority of people dress to this occasion.
3. Chatting (kupiga story)
Chatting or telling a story to a friend when the wedding is underway is not advisable. Wait for the moment to do that and to interact.
4. Keep time
Avoid being late, try to arrive early for the wedding. Also, wait to be ushered in and told where to sit. The front seats are usually reserved for the bride’s family and VIPs.
5. # at my friend’s wedding
Keep it offline. Avoid taking selfies and posting online while the ceremony is underway. Wait for the reception or after-party where doing it will be okay. Also, avoid taking photos of others when the ceremony is going on.
6. The speech
If you are invited to make a speech, make sure it supports the couple and not to embarrass them. But in some cases, you can make it fun by including funny moments. This mostly applies to relatives. For example, if I were to make a speech at my brothers’ wedding, I would make it really funny.
Two words for this, drink responsibly. You don’t want to be drunk and lose yourself and end up being a nuisance.
Show up with something. Bring considerable gifts. There is one wedding where someone gifted the couple an arsenal jersey and a washing powder. Maybe he wanted to make a joke which by the way I laughed hard because I knew the groom personally. But sometimes the jokes can go against you and the moment become disastrous. Avoid risking it.
9. Stealing from the wedding
There have been cases where guests steal gifts from the wedding. Come on this is the most embarrassing thing that can happen to anyone caught.
Finally, these are our 9 manners for a wedding guest. Just have good manners and play the part. Weddings are supposed to be fun. Express yourself with moderation. Follow us on Twitter to get post updates.